Jerry Seinfeld, NO AUTISM FOR YOU!

Jerry Seinfeld announces that he might have autism

– and the crowd goes wild!

After reading a few of the rants, I am left with only one question, ‘when did autism become a competitive sport?’

On occasion, I find myself asking this question when I read my blog. It typically plays out like this…

POST: Send help, Mike has repeated, “her skin turned to ice – her hair turned white” a million times.

     COMMENT: You should be thankful your son CAN talk.

     COMMENT: I would give anything to listen to my child script.

The comments are jolting and typically turn an otherwise positive outlet for parents into an uncomfortable downer. We are all affected by autism, why should any of us be thankful for the trials?

In case you are feeling isolated, please know, we ALL wish your child could talk! While I am happy that Mike has some language, I wish he could have a conversation that did not include movie scripts. Autism or not, as a parent, we ALL wish we could eliminate the challenges our children face.

Accepting autism is a process, wherever you fall on the spectrum, there are hardships, and there is humor.

For me, humor has been my lifeboat. As soon as I was able to laugh, I knew I would be okay. It takes a measure of acceptance to laugh through your life – whatever you are dealt.

I have the unique background of being an autism parent and an autism clinician. I have worked with countless families covering the full spectrum.

To the parent of a child on the lower end of the spectrum who is envious of the parent whose child is on the higher end of the spectrum, I say, be careful what you wish for. If autism were a competitive sport, there would be very few winners.

I can assure you, sitting on the floor of a school bathroom, crying with a 12-year-old with HFA because he cannot understand ‘why’ he does not fit in SUCKS!

In that moment, I was not thinking – gee, I wish Mike could experience this. Quite the opposite, I was thinking, I am so happy Mike does not experience this – he is HAPPY! While he has some desires beyond his limitation, for the most part, he is comfortable in his own skin.

From the outside, we can all look at Jerry Seinfeld and envy his success, for none of us truly knows his struggles – nor are we entitled to know them. I believe George said it best …

 “Jerry, just remember, it’s not a lie if you believe it.”

– George Costanza

So, lets all put away our daggers. Let us unify and focus our envy on the people who REALLY deserve it – the smart people, with money and vacation homes. The people who get enough sleep and have nice clean homes. You know them – the people who do not have any children at all!

It’s a JOKE –Yada, Yada, Yada – Serenity NOW!!!

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18 thoughts on “Jerry Seinfeld, NO AUTISM FOR YOU!

  1. Dena says:

    As always, you give great perspective with an eloquent voice. As an autism specialist and momma of two boys on the spectrum, I share your view, and have refrained from replying to some of the comments you cite. If I had replied, I would have meant for it to sound like your blog post, but am sure it would not have been so kind and diplomatic. Your sense of humor helps to drag me out of some of my lowest woe is me episodes. I love the videos that you share! Thank you for putting it all out there for us to see. It really does help to know that I am not alone in this journey, and that humor really does help. ❤

  2. Autism Mom says:

    Great post. We just got a new puppy and I have been reading forums on the best way to train on various things and it is the same kind of stuff. Vitriol of you crate train, vitriol if you don’t, judgment if you feed with dry food, judgment if you don’t. When did we become a people who won’t allow for multiple perspectives? A spectrum of perspectives..?

  3. Suzanne B. says:

    I love this. Sometimes the “competitive sport” aspect of autism and all special needs has led to the funniest interactions with friends who “get” how ridiculous it is to compare trials and tribulations. I’ll never forget when my son was 5 or 6 years old and I caught him peeing into a plastic cup in our den. Not sure if he didn’t want to interrupt his cartoon viewing–or maybe he just felt like trying it. When I related the story to a friend whose son has Down syndrome and is a few years older than mine, she said: “You’re lucky–my son could have never kept the pee within a cup!” I wish everyone could just support each other. And if the gut reaction is to judge, it might be best to step away from the Internet, phone, etc. until that feeling passes.

  4. As a person with high functioning autism THANK YOU!!! I get so upset with the bizarre competition that comes with having autism. We all have autism, we are all different and we all have different challenges. Being high functioning doesn’t make it easier.

  5. I would never post an “at least” comment. My son has HFA but that is not a wonderful thing either. Yes, my son can carry a conversation. However, he suffers greatly with social interaction. He is very aware that he just doesn’t quite fit in. He wants to fit in. More than anything he wants friends that include him outside of school. It’s a struggle. Every place on the spectrum has pros and cons. I agree that humor helps! Love ur blogs and your facebook page!

  6. pastorlamar says:

    Great post. I was diagnosed on the spectrum at age 36 and it has only been a year but I have been made to feel moments of extreme guilt form others in the autism community because I am on the “higher” end of the spectrum. Not sure why autism has become a competitive sport, but it has a way of making self advocates stay in the “closet” because in this community we have a tendency to eat our own young and old for that matter. I don’t claim to speak for all people on the spectrum, but at the same time shouldn’t I at least be able to share my story and my struggles too?

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