Jerry Seinfeld announces that he might have autism
– and the crowd goes wild!
After reading a few of the rants, I am left with only one question, ‘when did autism become a competitive sport?’
On occasion, I find myself asking this question when I read my blog. It typically plays out like this…
POST: Send help, Mike has repeated, “her skin turned to ice – her hair turned white” a million times.
COMMENT: You should be thankful your son CAN talk.
COMMENT: I would give anything to listen to my child script.
The comments are jolting and typically turn an otherwise positive outlet for parents into an uncomfortable downer. We are all affected by autism, why should any of us be thankful for the trials?
In case you are feeling isolated, please know, we ALL wish your child could talk! While I am happy that Mike has some language, I wish he could have a conversation that did not include movie scripts. Autism or not, as a parent, we ALL wish we could eliminate the challenges our children face.
Accepting autism is a process, wherever you fall on the spectrum, there are hardships, and there is humor.
For me, humor has been my lifeboat. As soon as I was able to laugh, I knew I would be okay. It takes a measure of acceptance to laugh through your life – whatever you are dealt.
I have the unique background of being an autism parent and an autism clinician. I have worked with countless families covering the full spectrum.
To the parent of a child on the lower end of the spectrum who is envious of the parent whose child is on the higher end of the spectrum, I say, be careful what you wish for. If autism were a competitive sport, there would be very few winners.
I can assure you, sitting on the floor of a school bathroom, crying with a 12-year-old with HFA because he cannot understand ‘why’ he does not fit in SUCKS!
In that moment, I was not thinking – gee, I wish Mike could experience this. Quite the opposite, I was thinking, I am so happy Mike does not experience this – he is HAPPY! While he has some desires beyond his limitation, for the most part, he is comfortable in his own skin.
From the outside, we can all look at Jerry Seinfeld and envy his success, for none of us truly knows his struggles – nor are we entitled to know them. I believe George said it best …
“Jerry, just remember, it’s not a lie if you believe it.”
– George Costanza
So, lets all put away our daggers. Let us unify and focus our envy on the people who REALLY deserve it – the smart people, with money and vacation homes. The people who get enough sleep and have nice clean homes. You know them – the people who do not have any children at all!
It’s a JOKE –Yada, Yada, Yada – Serenity NOW!!!